ANOTHER LIE THAT MUST BE CLEARED: People meant for success don't blame others for failures.

Yeah, many preachers of success will tell you that you shouldn't live a life of blaming others for what goes wrong, but instead, you should always count yourself responsible and find means to make it through. While this is true, i want to rectify it a little that some people sometimes are really responsible for our failure and that is a fact. The problem with the society is that we adamantly push away facts and start working out with illusions and just out of theory yet if we admitted a fact we would still be able to find a way out of the problem.

Listen, if a student at the university did his test well but was later marked by a lecture who was drunk and misplaced his work and the student gets push back, who is responsible for this failure? The student or lecture? If you rush a sick child to a hospital and you find a nurse who delays to help you because he is taking tea or facebooking and the child dies in your arms, who is responsible for the death? The nurse or you?

Of course, there is so much happening to determine the cause of everything we see happening, but on the surface, these issues are easy to judge. 

The fact is some people sometimes are the real causers of our failures and they are to be blamed, but there is always a way. Because someone caused you a loss doesn't mean you have to spend all your life there pointing your finger at him or staring at him to fix it for you; you are solely responsible for your betterness and thus you have to pick up the pieces and start again. The fact is someone has delayed your journey but you have to start again and continue.

By the way, understanding that someone precipitated your failure is important to avoid him or her the next time you launch up a deal. Instead, other lessons that are needed here is knowing if it was intentionally done to hurt you or if it was just an accident (this forms the basis for your relationship). Also, it is better to ask yourself if this person was your right channel despite his failing you or he wasn't necessary or right one on your journey and thus see where you are ultimately responsible.

The thing is whether you were responsible or someone else was responsible, it is your part to start over again because life must go on. But this starting over again might need the hand of the person who failed you either when he wills or force be applied according to laws (i assume you know these scenarios in our daily life).

So what am i saying today? You are not always responsible for all the failures or shortcomings in life though you are entirely responsible for the whole meaning or purpose of your whole life or outcomes. Also, it is healthy not to count every problem on your head, rightfully shift the blame to another but then find a way out despite who exactly caused the problem.

Yeah, we are partly responsible for every happenings here in world for we are system and accepting that will help reduce mental illness resulting from chronic guilty. At times, even the natural laws and their creator play a part to disqualify our missions & we end up blaming it on ourselves & other people.

Generally, what is important is to note that the side effects weight on us irrespective of who went wrong and thus we should always take the first step in finding solutions.

God bless you


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Born from Uganda, Nemeyimana Vicent (Nemvicx) has become what people call, "coming from nothing to something". Professionally, he is both a nurse and public health officer and currently works with Mulago National Referral Hospital. In 2016, he wedded his wife and great sweetheart, Amulen Winfred (also a professional Midwife and counsellor). Besides their professions, Nemvicx is an inspirational writer, singer, motivational speaker, author of several digital books. He a theologian and blogger at (The Complete You Ministry).

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