LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP: Why love a person who doesn't love you

While it is possible for any of us to fall victim of a person who claimed to love us and yet it was all deception, some of us still go ahead and participate in a relationship where we know well that we are not wanted. Yes, I am aware there are reasons that make us hang on a person who doesn't love us but i will still say these reasons are feeble compared to the sufferings we experience.

Like i said yesterday, some ladies will hang around a man who has no feelings for them as long as he has the things they want. Some of them just want to brag to their friends that their men are rich despite the beatings they may be sipping every night. And i ask what is that?

Love a person who loves you because the one you are forcing into it loves someone else. Get me well,i am not talking about THE LOVE YOUR ENEMIES gospel,i am talking about romance. Every romantic relationship should base on the true love between the two people.

Love is not only feelings, it is also conscious commitment. I am sure you have heard of the cheating outside here in the name of love. That is not love. So if someone has feelings for you and is not making any commitment to defend and protect you, why go with him? Also, someone might make commitment to be there for you simply because he has been forced by law or other principles but has no feelings for you, that is not love too.

Actually, there is something going on in churches that is scary:People are forced into marriage only to find that they are no longer sleeping together after one month. What is that?Churches are more focused at the couples fulfilling some rules and principles of the church, instead, of minding if there is TRUE LOVE between the couples. I assume you are remembering the other recent research in Uganda where many people who were unfaithful to their partners were christians. Why?

What am i saying? Nothing is as important as knowing that the person you are falling for truly loves you. Your relationship shouldn't base on any other thing other than love. Many of us do it to respect our cultures, others do it because of greedy for money and things, others do it to respect church virtues and so many other reasons but we are wrong and this Must stop.

Sit down, ponder a little, meditate for a minute, ask,"Why are you chasing that man or that lady?" And if your answer is not because you love Him or her, then stop. And also if you know the person you are chasing doesn't love you, what else are you looking for? His money, his house or his prestige won't make you happy. Search for love and give love.



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Born from Uganda, Nemeyimana Vicent (Nemvicx) has become what people call, "coming from nothing to something". Professionally, he is both a nurse and public health officer and currently works with Mulago National Referral Hospital. In 2016, he wedded his wife and great sweetheart, Amulen Winfred (also a professional Midwife and counsellor). Besides their professions, Nemvicx is an inspirational writer, singer, motivational speaker, author of several digital books. He a theologian and blogger at (The Complete You Ministry).

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