LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS: How do you find love? Check your formulas!

When we were young adults of 17, 18, 19, we had crammed a formula that would help us get right women. You also know it, don't you? it's (Age, Beauty, Character, Education, Family background etc). When i fell in love, i never remembered to apply the formula! And yet i fell for the right one. So what is the secret behind? How did I find true love? 

By the way, we have written a serious e-book entitled "How Do You Tell That She or He is The Right One For You". Get it now

Did you know that the relationships of the educated ones are even worse or at least not better  compared to our non-educated families at home? The only difference is that the educated ones are usually able to hide these differences from the public. Most of them are having difficulty in their homes either due to unfaithfulness, workaholicism, and alcoholism, disrespect between the couple and fights over money and jobs and etc. Don't forget unfaithfulness!

The above challenges in the educated class are because most of them choose their partners using their mind and formulas instead of following the passion of their hearts. Yes, educated people have calculations and conditions they always seek in their partners and rarely do these include the heart!

You have got the point: follow the passion of your heart and not your crammed formulas and tricks from the books you have read.

I have interacted with many girls in professional work and their focus is what the man has than what the man is. You may deny it but you know it is true (of course, it's not everyone). There are times when you fall for a man only to realize he has no standing job, no car, no house or even is not so educated and then you turn him off or you just stay while you are cheating on him with the loaded guys.

Your heart talks silently, "but you love him" but your ego shouts, "yeah, but he really has nothing". And since most of us are likely to listen to the loud voice than the calm voice of the conscience, we side with our brains and abandon the heart. Seriously, the heart should guide the brains in what to think of when it comes to love and relationships and not the other way round.

I am not saying that you don't put reasoning in your emotions and desires but your reasoning should be to help you avoid sins and mistakes as defined by society or Bible or both. Love crosses borders and tribes and is not governed by your tribal rules or society regulations. If you are still a prisoner of these society rules and regulations, you will never meet the freedom of heart offered by love.

There is this new era where no man should love only one woman, that is the gospel of evil. You can't enjoy your full passion when you are distributing it among women. Who told you that it's okay for men to explore in that fashion? And yes, we all have these desires and temptations to drift away and we kindly ask for God's grace to keep us faithful to our families and partners and forgive us wherever we might have went off the track, even in our desires only.

The last time you want to choose or find love, take notice of that lady who makes your heart feel at home, who counsels you, and who, at times,makes you confuse her with your mother! Listen to a lady who has this vast knowledge that he understands even the life and message in natural plants and animals, who when you are with her you feel heaven, you feel you can do anything with her. That is the woman and, to you, ladies that is the man.

Remember to check this out:
1. How do you tell that she is the Right One for you
2. 5 Secrets to Win the heart of any woman

She may not be of your tribe, may be of low education or higher. Her family might be rich or not, disciplined or not, but if she gives her soul to you, then give your soul to her and with your love you will work on the rest to fit in the design. Remember, it's always about you two; leave your mother and father and be one. And what God has put together, nobody can separate.

Once again, use your heart to guide you to your love and not your brains and reasoning.


God Bless You

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Born from Uganda, Nemeyimana Vicent (Nemvicx) has become what people call, "coming from nothing to something". Professionally, he is both a nurse and public health officer and currently works with Mulago National Referral Hospital. In 2016, he wedded his wife and great sweetheart, Amulen Winfred (also a professional Midwife and counsellor). Besides their professions, Nemvicx is an inspirational writer, singer, motivational speaker, author of several digital books. He a theologian and blogger at (The Complete You Ministry).

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