The only key to unlocking total submission from your wife or fiancée:

It is one of the painful things in this world to have a woman who doesn’t listen to your voice. To marry a sweetheart and you still take care of yourself as before, to call her and adamantly refuses to come. To leave clothes and utensils dirty at home and find them in the same condition when you return. It is a hurtful thing to have a woman who refuses to submit to your leadership as a man. You may not say it in public, you may even know it that it is the one thing responsible for your unhappiness and oh how dangerous it is to have such a lover who doesn’t obey what you say or do!
Some of us have tried to beat our sweethearts to force them submit to our leadership. Some of us have tried police, some have tried local and national courts to address the matter of wives not submitting and respecting their husbands, we have tried deception and lies, we have tried threats and torturing of different kinds (including withholding home supplies, having much time away from our homes and troublous wives), but all these have been in vain.

For the above torturing issue, I have tried to search the right way to trigger this submission that we yearn from the women we love. I have asked great preachers, great readers and I have asked men and women and looked into my experience and come up with the principle: Give her you utmost love and reap her utmost submission. This principle is automatic. It is not that you are going to love her and then demand for the submission. No, submission just comes. Your love is just a triggering factor of what is already in women, in your wife.

For those who follow my writings you already know ‘The Action-Reward Philosophy’. In this philosophy, we agreed that the only action we are capable of doing is that which carries a reward of some kind. There can only be miscalculation and mismatching of certain actions and their rewards but there can never be actions without any rewards attached. From this principle or philosophy, loving your own wife automatically carries with itself a reward of some kind and this time it is her total submission to your leadership as a man.

Forcing your wife into submitting to your leadership won’t work. It will, instead, bring more pain. You can’t buy this submission. I am sure there are many men who put their money in front so as to buy the submission and respect of the ladies or women they love, none of them succeeds. First, money is wasted which would do other family developments. Secondly, the wife or the woman you love may lose her affection for you as a person and keep holding onto you just because of your money. Thirdly, the submission varies with money and thus the reduction in money or payments reduces the submission too. Lastly and the most dangerous one; love is not enjoyable since feelings and affection diminish as money and properties occupy the gap.

The only ingredient missing in the smoothness of our families is true love accompanied with emotions, feelings and commitment. For those who read the article, why love one who doesn’t love you, you understand the value of combining both emotions and desires with commitment in a relationship. A woman in love and who knows that she is loved will do anything within her power for the man she loves. You won’t remind her to cook for you, you won’t remind her to organize the house, you won’t buy her to wash your clothes and you won’t have to first beg her for love making. Your love is the only pay for whatever she does for you. Your love is the only motivation for her services to you. Someone wrote, “Anything is either hard or simple basing on the love involved while doing it”. Yeah, love is the true and stronger motivation for the greatest accomplishments in the world (read sexual transmutation). However, sexual transmutation considers sex so much than the greater context of love.

So before you complain that your wife is not submitting to your leadership, ask yourself, “Is my love enough and satisfying to this woman? Am I treating her like she is a queen? Do I serve her with heart?” I know love is a broad term which many of us may not understand but some things make it easily definable (read my recent articles on love and relationships).

So stop working hard on winning the submission of a woman, just concentrate on loving her. Stop finding what she hasn’t done for you and start finding what you haven’t done for her and do it. Stop listening to fake advice from fellow disappointed men and start running your family on the basis of love and commitment. Lastly, pray to God so that he helps you to love your woman the way she should be loved. To love is not an easy task and it may never be easy without having the faith in the natural strength and provisions of burning love.

God Bless You. The Complete You Project.


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Born from Uganda, Nemeyimana Vicent (Nemvicx) has become what people call, "coming from nothing to something". Professionally, he is both a nurse and public health officer and currently works with Mulago National Referral Hospital. In 2016, he wedded his wife and great sweetheart, Amulen Winfred (also a professional Midwife and counsellor). Besides their professions, Nemvicx is an inspirational writer, singer, motivational speaker, author of several digital books. He a theologian and blogger at (The Complete You Ministry).

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