The lesson i learned via hard way: For every generation, there will always be victims or losers, just try to be on the other side

It was in 2013 and we were having a hand-over party at school(i mean, Mutolere nursing school) and we invited the hospital superintendent, Mr. Mugisha Jerome. The fact is i like this guy. He is educated and learned and i won’t forget his speech on that day. While all of us had a lot of complaints about what was going on in the school, this man made all my arguments fade before i said anything. In his speech, he said that at every time, there are victors and victims and then the oppressed. No matter how fair societies may try to be, there will always be those people affected or oppressed as the rest make through with successes.
He then explained himself. While there such situations, as an individual you have to try so hard to be among the victors and not the victims. Your complaints won’t solve the problems of the oppressed, that time and energy must be spent in finding means of getting out the marginalized group. Yeah, you may complain a little and wisely to get a breathing space, but always use that breathing space to get to something much more and defensive from oppressors otherwise your relief won’t be long to be enjoyed.

In his words, i found knowledge and though i was not able to control my total anger and ended up spilling some stupid complaints, the worst that could have resulted in my school drop-out was saved. And here i am somehow no longer under those compressions and pressures and eeh i am a victor and no more a victim. This is not easy to tell to someone being oppressed, but is the saving truth.

In 2012 while doing a practical nursing exam on ward, Sr. Beriah, the ward in-charge said something i will never forget. We had waited for our examiners and they had delayed taking tea while we staved on ward and when they finally came, we were mad enough to vomit anything out. Fortunately, Beriah understood the anger inside us and she said, “I know you are angry with us but you would better control your anger, bring good attitude and pass the examination so that you are stressed no more. Otherwise, you may keep losing and i will keep winning”. I immediately swallowed my pride and my friends too, we all entered with smiling faces and we won the race. I and all my friends passed the exam.

In 2004 while still in primary school, my head teacher, Mr. Munyancongore Chris said that there was no development without destruction. He was explaining the hard conditions we were facing at the time when he was brought in as the new headmaster. He said that people lose land, houses and property when a new road is being constructed but thousands of people still benefit from the road.

All the above mentors will forever remain at my heart and i will always try to follow their advice. Yeah, at times, complaints are unavoidable but we just have to measure the limits so we do not lose even the little we have. And if a single breathing space or freedom is granted, use it to rise higher where you won’t need people’s sympathy anymore. There will always be the victims, make sure you are not among and if you are among just try to get out. That is the lesson i have learned via hard way.

Nemvicx. The Complete You Project


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Born from Uganda, Nemeyimana Vicent (Nemvicx) has become what people call, "coming from nothing to something". Professionally, he is both a nurse and public health officer and currently works with Mulago National Referral Hospital. In 2016, he wedded his wife and great sweetheart, Amulen Winfred (also a professional Midwife and counsellor). Besides their professions, Nemvicx is an inspirational writer, singer, motivational speaker, author of several digital books. He a theologian and blogger at (The Complete You Ministry).

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