Who said that Charity begins at home? And what is charity anyway? What is home??
You see, there are people who are more than our brothers or even parents; that is what we call home. There are places that feed us, accept us and accommodate us with gratitude, those places are our homes. They may not be necessarily our places of birth, but they are our homes simply because they received us and accept us the way we are. They may not be our blood or biological brothers and parents, but some people are our homes because they have been there for us than our real families. Yeah, that is our home. And in that perspective, charity indeed starts at home.
There are people who think they own what you have by virtue of the biological relations between you and they and I think that is a bad belief. People should own a part of what you are or have simply because they have been there for you and have accepted you, they are your home. If the home referred to in our proverb is what you have been thinking, then I bet the proverb is very misleading. But if the home referred to is this one that i have explained, and then the proverb is right.
For those who follow my writings, i have always emphasized that it is not enough to be called a parent (a father, mother) simply because you produced someone; it is only valid if you took Care of the child. Otherwise even rats, dogs, and birds give birth and try to take care of their children or young ones or eggs. There are people who can have more rights to the children than you the real mother or father simply because they have been there than you and I think this is the right perception. Remember, what I am talking about here is not money or property, I am taking about being there for someone in love, care, time, listening, patience, counseling and mentoring. From this perspective, every parent or relative of some kind can have the means of being there for someone.
Aaaah do not get surprised you have a small heart for your relatives, your parents, your brothers and sisters, and yet you have a good heart towards other people and strangers. Sometimes these relatives do not really deserve your heart. Ha-ha, this is gonna be hard to get, but I know you will: None of us deserves the best and thus we get anything good out of God's grace. In that insight, even your careless relatives can get some good from you but on this merit of grace not on merit of them being your biological relatives.
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