The 6 Grave Mistakes You as a Christian Should Dare Never Make In Relation To Dating
Surprisingly, we will begin with number 6 today and narrow them down to the most common and dangerous number one mistake! Ready to experience the errors? Waoh! Let's go.
Yes, according to Proverbs 19:14, a good wife can only be given by God. That was our theme too, but the same book of Proverbs says, “It’s hard to find a good wife and when a man finds one, it is a sign that the Lord is pleased with him (Proverbs 31:10 and 18:22).
You cannot sit and wait for God to do the talking, the connecting, and all sorts of crazy things we do for love. You need to find the right woman, invest your time, knowledge and wisdom in the relationship and make her say yes to you and not somebody else.
Even when he was tricked and given another woman, Jacob stayed put. He accepted to work for more seven years at Laban’s farm just to have the woman (Rachel) he had fallen for. Are you ready to work hard for your relationship?
Does it sound weird? I will explain, I don’t want anybody to misquote me here.
I am not speaking of being a spiritual man, one who is truly saved and would love to reveal Jesus and stand for Him in whatever place and time; I am talking about this man that has nothing interesting to discuss and thus keeps beating around the bush and gushing out names like Jesus, God, pastor, choir and the church in fairly uncoordinated and non interesting story even at an evening-dating table.
And so they will talk about Jesus, bible and God only and nothing else about themselves, their dreams, goals, challenges and real life experiences. I remember asking one of them, “Shall you be speaking the same words with musical background of amazing grace even when making love to your husband?"
The first challenge is that usually the non Christian usually transforms the Christian or at least affects his depth in faith, but there is another challenge! Which one? Actually, the verse does not say that it is okay to marry an unbeliever; it says that is okay if you are already married.
Of course, you need to still be careful even with your fellow believers for some of them are worse.
Yes, such men and women exist and it is up to us to find them. I hope you already came across our article called Good Men And Women Still exist. The bible says we have nothing in common with non-believers (2 Corinthians 6:14-17).
Isn’t it confusing? Of course it should not be.
Whatever they talked of about me or her was as old as cents to us. During the two years and more of honest friendship, we had talked about ourselves enough. She knew well my sins, mistakes, failures and background weaknesses and I knew hers and we were happily in love despite all that.
Read the glimpses of our love story in Our Personal Valentine's Day Message 2017
We don’t love people because they are perfect only; sometimes we love them so we make them perfect. Yes, there are some important spots that need careful consideration before commitment but most of these differences are minute and as love becomes thicker, they grow thinner.
I hope you read our article called Love Is Not Blind But Deliberately Decides To Close Eyes
And a gentleman has showed interest in you and you are asking your pastor if it the right time! Really, is that the best way you can do it?
You see, things to do with love and relationships are complex and we cannot decipher them because we have masters in divinity or theology; they just need the heart.
Are you going to just push him or her away because he or she has not been liked or endorsed by your pastor? I mean, shall your pastor share with you the consequences of the type of marriage you shall have?
I am not talking about the common virtue of seeking advice, guidance and some kind of tips and helpful guidelines from our leaders and elders; I am talking about the disease of trying to be a more and super Christian by following everything your pastor or dad commands.
And you know what! Many Christians are poor at this.
Most Christian ladies and gentlemen don’t know how to relate with their opposite sex friends and this brings trouble even when dating time comes.
As you get around with people of opposite sex, your approach, perception and take on them matures which is good for future dating and relationships.
This brings us to what we call opposite sex boundaries and author Trillia Newbell does it so well in her 2015 article called Married Couples And Boundaries With The Opposite Sex.
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