So how do you attract things you want to yourself instead of chasing after them?

In my inbox, some friends ask me, how can I get a job? How can I attract girls to my side? How can I attract friends to my side? How can I win the passion and affection of a parent or guardian? And yes, I always add, how can YOU attract the success you want instead of chasing after it? And if you have been struggling with any of the above questions, today is your day of answers.

Listen, at The Complete You Ministry, I one day told you how I won over the heart of my wife, Winnie Nemeyimana even when we had almost nothing physical in common, but just our hearts. But yes, I attracted her to myself and she attracted me to herself, but how did we do it? You already know. But for those who still would want to know how to win the heart of the woman you admire, here is how to do it; 5 secrets to win any woman's heart (open the link and enjoy the 5 Bible based tips).


Fast forward, the real best and tested way of attracting that which you desire is to "better yourself". Listen, you won't win over girls by chasing after them, you win them by becoming better, successful, hard working and revealing a promising future. I remember telling you this; wise women don't love a man because of necessarily what he is, but the limitless possibilities and hope they see in that man for future success. What do I mean? 

In the article, action reward philosophy, we agreed that there is no such thing as free or happening without cause, the best things can only go to the best (of course the challenge here is what is meant by "the best"). This truth is applicable whether in spiritual, economical, social, mental, or even political successes. The best way to attract the best things to yourself (a job, a woman, a friend, good grades, a business, or money) is to become the best yourself. That is the trick, no any other way. 

So do you want a job? Do you want girls to swarm around you? Do you want friends at school to fall for you? Do you want your uncle to start calling you sweet names? Do you want your husband to admire you? Concentrate on improving yourself. Work on yourself, get better, find success, and live a hopeful and creative life, things will look for you. 


For God's sake, up to now I can't understand why we complain or feel betrayed when people forsake or leave us when we fail (I mean real failed life), what else do we expect people to associate with us for? (Again, failure here is not necessarily lack of money; we will have time to discuss this). 

Let person X chase after girls day and night and you chase after success, the girls shall end up passively coming to you. Let person A involve witchcraft, corruption, lies and deception at the workplace and you concentrate on doing your work well, do further studies, make perfect and meaningful connections and relations, job promotions will find you. Everyone of us likes or would love to associate with a better person, be that better person. 

I don't mean you won't pass around asking for a job. I don't mean you won't propose to a woman someday. I don't mean you won't really ask for the promotion. I am not saying you won't go out and try the business, all I am saying is that it will be easier for you. It won't be the push push and force force thing; you already deserve it. Yes, I asked Winnie to fly with me. I asked for the job I have now. I worked it out to build The Complete You Ministry, but it was far easier than if wasn't better. And yes, just few days ago I got another job because I had the online digital marketing certificate from Google! 

What is the point? Stop chasing after girls, jobs or promotions, love and affection of friends, business success and all forms of desires through that "hard and desperate" way and Start working on yourself. Better or best things and people end up in arms of better or best people, I don't care how that happens. And yet as a Christian, I am confident to say; it's not your own making but God's grace for you can't be anything better without His grace, love and making. See you on top. 


The Complete You Ministry, We Believe You Can



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Born from Uganda, Nemeyimana Vicent (Nemvicx) has become what people call, "coming from nothing to something". Professionally, he is both a nurse and public health officer and currently works with Mulago National Referral Hospital. In 2016, he wedded his wife and great sweetheart, Amulen Winfred (also a professional Midwife and counsellor). Besides their professions, Nemvicx is an inspirational writer, singer, motivational speaker, author of several digital books. He a theologian and blogger at (The Complete You Ministry).

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